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The Truth About “Mom Brain”: Executive Functioning and the Unique Impact on Mothers

If you’ve ever felt more forgetful, overwhelmed, or mentally stretched since becoming a mom, you’re not imagining it. The transition to motherhood reshapes the brain in powerful ways. Let’s talk about why “mom brain” is real and why it deserves compassion, not criticism.

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Tell Me Lies, Toxic Love, and the Relationships That Made Us Question Ourselves

Why does Tell Me Lies feel so personal for so many people? This article explores the relationship dynamics between Stephen, Lucy, Bree, and Diana and why toxic love can feel familiar. From power imbalances to losing yourself in a relationship, it looks at the emotional patterns that make the show resonate and what it reveals about the way many of us learned to understand love.

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Book Review: Parenting with Love & Logic by Foster Cline and Jim Fay

Many parents and adults are not looking for more rules. They are looking for relief. Love and Logic helps people step out of reaction mode, reduce conflict, and set boundaries without losing connection. Despite the title, this approach is useful far beyond parenting and supports healthier relationships across the lifespan.

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It’s Ok to Take Up Space On Your Birthday…and Every Other Day Too

Taking responsibility for your life doesn’t mean becoming demanding or rigid. It means being honest about who you are and what you need. When you’re clear and someone doesn’t show up, it can hurt, but it’s also information. And clarity is kinder than resentment.

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Busy Season Survival for Women in Public Accounting

Busy season has a way of turning capable, intelligent women into people who feel like they’re barely keeping it together, while still performing at a high level.

If you work in public accounting, you already know the unspoken rules: long hours, constant deadlines, little margin for error, and the quiet expectation that you’ll “power through” because that’s just how busy season is.

But even when it’s expected, that level of intensity takes a toll.

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The Day I Took My Licensure Exam and Nothing Happened

Licensure was supposed to feel like fireworks. Confetti. Proof that I had finally arrived. Instead, it felt more like getting married after already living together. The paperwork changed, but the work stayed the same.

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Where Do the Grieving Moms and Daughters Go?

It’s early morning, and before the day has even begun, you already feel depleted. The house is loud, your senses are flooded, and grief sits heavy in your chest as you move through the motions. Ever since your parent died, every day feels like Groundhog Day. You show up because you have to, (for your kids, your partner, your life) but survival feels like all you have to give.

Losing a parent while raising young children carries a unique weight. You’re holding your own grief while also supporting your children’s, all while the world keeps demanding more from you. There’s little space to fall apart, even when everything inside you needs tending.

This space was created for the moms who are quietly carrying it all. The ones who love their children deeply, miss their parent endlessly, and are longing for a place where their grief is allowed to breathe. You don’t have to do this alone anymore.

Read more about how grieving moms can find support, connection, and space to heal.

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We don’t need more stuff. We need less. A therapists perspective on ADHD, family overwhelm and regulation.

We were taught that when life feels out of control, the answer is better organization. More bins. More systems. More structure. But for ADHD brains and overwhelmed families, more organization often just becomes more pressure. More to manage. More to remember. More to feel behind on. Sometimes the answer is not another system. Sometimes the answer is simply less.

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The Great Holiday Homecoming

When college kids come home for Thanksgiving or winter break everyone expects cozy family time but the reality can feel a little more chaotic. Your student has been living like an independent almost adult and you have been living in a peaceful routine. This blog walks you through how to talk about curfews chores and social plans before the tension hits so the holiday break feels calmer kinder and way less dramatic.

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Helping Your Child Understand Celiac Disease: Our Family Story and a Gentle Storybook for Kids

Celiac disease can feel confusing and scary for children, especially when they are facing testing, new rules, or a recent diagnosis. In this post, I share our family’s journey, the lessons we’ve learned, and a gentle, child-friendly story inspired by my work with families at the CHOP Celiac Center. This simple storybook about Annie Grace is designed to help kids feel brave, supported, and less alone as they begin their gluten-free journey.

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For the New Therapists Who Need to Hear This Today

There’s a point in every new therapist’s journey when you realize something no textbook ever prepared you for: there are no coping skills powerful enough to override unmet basic needs. You can offer grounding tools, insight, and emotional support, but you cannot out-therapize hunger or talk someone into feeling safe when they’re not. And that isn’t a failure of your training or your clinical skills. It’s a reminder that human beings need food, rest, stability, and safety before they can access growth. In community mental health especially, this truth becomes impossible to ignore and often sits at the root of burnout. We try to treatment-plan our way through food insecurity and systemic gaps, when what clients really need is support far beyond the therapy room. The work becomes more sustainable the moment you release the pressure to fix what is fundamentally not a clinical problem, and instead meet yourself and your clients with grace.

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When Cutoff Isn’t The Goal: A Call for Accountability, Connection & Healing

Cutoff is rarely the goal in parent–child relationships. Most adult children are not asking their parents to carry blame, but to acknowledge the pain that existed and to heal together. When accountability is avoided, both parents and children experience a kind of living grief. But when it is embraced, that grief can become a bridge back to connection, repair, and relationship.

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So, You Don’t Have ADHD? Here’s What It’s Like for Those Who Do

ADHD is what happens when your brain forgets time exists, treats choosing socks like a major life decision, and suddenly becomes a productivity machine five minutes before a deadline. This article explains the ADHD brain with humor, real-life examples, and a whole lot of validation.

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To the One Living with Chronic Illness

If you live with chronic illness, even getting to an appointment can feel overwhelming. This article explains how virtual therapy can provide mental health support from the comfort of home, without added pressure or expectations.

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A Letter to the Mom Crying in Her Black SUV

To the mom crying in her black SUV between errands and pickup lines, you are not failing. You are carrying more than anyone can see and it makes sense that your tears finally found their way out. You are not invisible. You are worthy of support and softness and a life that gives you space to breathe again.

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